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Sunday, December 16, 2012

"I Live With A Son Who Is Mentally Ill. I Love My Son. But He Terrifies Me "

From Ace of Spades:
Here's an excerpt but really, just read the whole thing. 
A few weeks ago, Michael pulled a knife and threatened to kill me and then himself after I asked him to return his overdue library books. His 7 and 9 year old siblings knew the safety plan—they ran to the car and locked the doors before I even asked them to. I managed to get the knife from Michael, then methodically collected all the sharp objects in the house into a single Tupperware container that now travels with me. Through it all, he continued to scream insults at me and threaten to kill or hurt me....
I am sharing this story because I am Adam Lanza’s mother. I am Dylan Klebold’s and Eric Harris’s mother. I am Jason Holmes’s mother. I am Jared Loughner’s mother. I am Seung-Hui Cho’s mother. And these boys—and their mothers—need help. In the wake of another horrific national tragedy, it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.
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When I asked my son’s social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail,” he said. “That’s the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges.” 
I don’t believe my son belongs in jail. The chaotic environment exacerbates Michael’s sensitivity to sensory stimuli and doesn’t deal with the underlying pathology. But it seems like the United States is using prison as the solution of choice for mentally ill people. 
According to Human Rights Watch, the number of mentally ill inmates in U.S. prisons quadrupled from 2000 to 2006, and it continues to rise—in fact, the rate of inmate mental illness is five times greater (56 percent) than in the non-incarcerated population. 
(http://www.hrw.org/news/2006/09/05/us-number-mentally-ill-prisons-quadrupled)
With state-run treatment centers and hospitals shuttered, prison is now the last resort for the mentally ill—Rikers Island, the LA County Jail, and Cook County Jail in Illinois housed the nation’s largest treatment centers in 2011. 
No one wants to send a 13-year old genius who loves Harry Potter and his snuggle animal collection to jail. But our society, with its stigma on mental illness and its broken healthcare system, does not provide us with other options. Then another tortured soul shoots up a fast food restaurant. A mall. A kindergarten classroom. And we wring our hands and say, “Something must be done.”
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4 Comments:

Blogger Will said...

Sigh as i said from day one the signs were there, but nobody acted.
As parents we sometimes have to stop thinking with our heart and use 'common sense'.

Sunday, December 16, 2012 4:56:00 pm  
Blogger WC said...

It's time to have a serious discussion about how we got here. How we live in a society that over the last 40 years has become a celebration of irresponsibility, media promoted violence called entertainment, children sexting nude photos of themselves, attack on our Judeo-Christian values, anti-god, cesspool.

The end result of the Progressive agenda. We need to start holding them to task and have them face up to the affects of their agenda. Yes - lets have a discussion of our rights and the responsibility they entail. It starts not with the second amendment. It starts with our media, news organizations, education system and the leftist courts.

Sunday, December 16, 2012 7:24:00 pm  
Blogger Pastorius said...

Well put, WC.

Sunday, December 16, 2012 7:46:00 pm  
Blogger Always On Watch said...

I believe that there are many individuals like Michael.

Schools know.

Teachers know.

Others besides the parents know.

We see that others knew or suspected in advance that "something was very wrong."

How can these "wrong" people be helped? Well, I'm not sure that they CAN be helped! At least, not by the time that recognition of the problem has taken place.

I also agree with WC.

I'm certain in my own mind that individuals such as Michael have always been among us. But religious faith and upbringing with a moral compass has kept them under control (for the most part).

Now that these individuals are growing up in a way that ignores or denies the importance of a "good upbringing," a civilized set of values including that of accountability, monsters are unleashed.

God help us.

Monday, December 17, 2012 10:47:00 am  

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